Fro most of us, fear holds us back. What are you afraid of?
You know that exercise transforms your body and improves the way you feel about yourself. It even boosts your sex life.
You know all about creating smart fitness goals and achieving them.
You know how to overcome all the excuses.
You know that honoring your body with exercise is an extension of honoring your life.
You know what exercises to do, how much weight to use and how many sets and reps to perform.
You know that there’s a huge community of more than 100,000 blog buddies to cheer on your accomplishments.
So, what’s holding you back? The door is open. What’s stopping you from walking through? The path to achieving your fitness goal is clear, so why aren’t you seizing the opportunity?
For most of us, the answer is fear. I want to know, in the comments below, what you’re most afraid of?
I am afraid I won’t lose the weight even if I try hard…and stop using food to cope.
I think I’m afraid I’ll still be alone. Sex is easy to come by and I have it often. Dating is hard, & I think the weight has become an easy barrier. Makes me invisible so it’s easy to just be the best friend, life of the party etc, one night stand, but not be looked at as a serious romantic partner. The weight protects me from having to deal with that anymore. Sooo I gues I’m afraid of real love again. I had it once, then lost it, & let myself go with it.
I’m afraid people will be watching and judging me.
I use to workout all the time then I had brain surgery and its so hard to. Feel motivated enough to stary back up again. Plus im the smallest person in my house and when ever I workout or eat healthy they call me an anorexic(i know I spelled that wrong) so does anyone have any advice on getting motivated when you have unsuporting family\friends?
I had the same experience, really its about showing them how dedicated and important it is to You, not only for outward appearance but your overall mental wellbeing.You won’t feel truely happy till your outside matches that of which is inside….atleast that was the case for me x
I came across your site some years ago. I have always wanted to hit the gym and improve my body, but never made the conscious effort. Its true what you said once: “people only change when they are ready to” That happened to me about 6 months ago. I went to a personal trainer that has a private studio (mostly out of shyness) but also I’m a creature of motivation, if i don’t have motivation, its difficult for me to do something. I go 5 days a week, and it really has changed my life. Now in December I went to Cape Town and decided that I WILL climb Table Mountain, UP and DOWN! I made it without even feeling that it was an effort for me. Exercise makes a difference.. Thank you for your inspiration
Oh Davey, if I knew that I wouldn’t need to visit your website on a daily basis!
I’m afraid for:
1. I will build muscle but the fat will stay
2. Life and others will ask more of me than they already do and I won’t be able to maintain my goal once I reach it
I’ve been going to the gym but it’s an on and off thing.. I think the main reason why (and probably most of us have it) is the fact that we’re beginners and will probably focus like 90% of our attention on others and comparing ourselves with other more muscular, leaner, attractive bodies, rather than our own. I’ve been finding it hard to ignore the stares, call me paranoid or what, just the fact that I’m sharing gym equipments with other strangers who know what they’re doing with little completely clueless me is intimidating.. I’m trying hard to deal with it, but it ain’t easy.. honestly that’s my main reason that’s been keeping me from hitting the gym… any advice?
I’m fat like obese like 300+ lbs! im afraid to have all that all my excess skin will look disgusting and i cant afford to take it off. Also that i wont even recognise who i am any more!then the support on the net is gud and what not but i need support her where i am need someone 2 lean on!
I guess what I’m afraid of is people seeing me before I work out and develop a decent body and that they will judge me according to the first look they got at me.
I’m afraid that if I lose weight, I’ll end up having sex with another man and God will condemn me to Hell for that.
I guess sometimes I’m afraid of being objectified. I’ve been in better shape than I am now (though right now I’m in the best shape I’ve been in years!) and I got so sick of the endless attention that was paid toward my body and people pawing at my chest. It was like, because I was looking good people somehow thought it gave them the right to grope and molest me. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good grope as much as the next guy, but it needs to be from someone who respects me and is attracted to my heart and personality as well. Being overweight for most of my life taught me to cultivate my mind and personality; I hate to see that lifetime of achievement so grossly overshadowed by a bit of cardio and some push-ups. /:|
im afraid that people would look at me in a bad way and even with all the work out, i would still feel and look, ”invisible”.
I’m afraid of the same thing Brandon is! I don’t want that extra skin just hanging there! Its not cute! Lol!
the picture , you caught my presant:)
I am afraid that I will actually achieve what it is that I want. I work towards it but once it is a certainty I shy away from it.
I’m afraid if I dont meet someone then I can’t blame it on not working out- it’s the only thing I can find as a reason I am single (without settling with someone I don’t desire). It would mean that people are just plain not interested in me..
I have a health condition, and I fear that if I push my training to hard it will get worse, or trigger a relapse. Which in my case is a real risk. On the other hand being in good physical shape would be beneficial when dealing with the underlying.
My health has improved recently and I just gone back to more serious training (compared to just walking the dog), yet I don’t know if it will trigger a relapse or not.
I’m afraid people at the gym will see me lifting the smallest amount possible and judge me…even though I know they all started out that way. But they were in middle school or high school when they started.
I’m somewhere between what Mark said and what Rebecca said.. or maybe both.
I’m really athletic, but fear the gym more than anything.
My upper body strength is my physical shortcoming compared to others I play with, so I know going to the gym would be a great idea to help me out, but I feel like I have such a ways to go that people are going to judge me or look down at me having a hard time with half (or less) the weight they would use for the same exercise.
The gym is such a macho place lots of the time, I hate feeling emasculated before I even begin…
I am afraid of not succeeding, of hurting, of losing motivation once again… Singed up for the gym numerous time, and every time I quit after 3 or 4 months… I know my week muscles or body parts, but hell it is too hard to break in through the pain and the feeling that it is an impossible task… I get discouraged easily….
I am also afraid of the extra skin that I will have after I lose weight. I weight 280lbs at 5’9″ and feel that after I lose 50-75lbs like I want to that I will have tons of extra skin, especially on my chest. I have a fear that it will look less attractive than I am at 280lbs and it causes me to lose motivation.
I’m afraid that people will remember the old me and judge me on that.
Since I’m only a teen with an unhealthy family that bring in temptations everyday and can’t buy my own food, I’m afraid of getting off track and falling back into old habits. Living by rules and restrictions on things as simple as everyday foods also scares me.
im mostly afraid of coping with sticking to workout times-and if they affect my progress.some days its working too late-going into the dinner hour-then working out too late in the day-winding down-and getting the proper rest-then do it again-the very next day.plus my weight-loss plan is going very well-except that my goal of reaching ideal body height weight proportion by January 1st-self imposed deadline-has to be revised.im not at all discouraged-just realising that adjustments need to be made.i dont want to set myself up for failure-but hope im in the correct frame of mind-as in mind-body-and soul.
im mostly afraid of coping with sticking to workout times-and if they affect my progress.some days its working too late-going into the dinner hour-then working out too late in the day-winding down-and getting the proper rest-then do it again-the very next day.plus my weight-loss plan is going very well-except that my goal of reaching ideal body height weight proportion by January 1st-self imposed deadline-has to be revised.im not at all discouraged-just realising that adjustments need to be made.i dont want to set myself up for failure-but hope im in the correct frame of mind-as in mind-body-and soul.
I’m scared of trying and failing over and over again. It’s what I’ve been coping with for 3 years now. I workout for a certain time, don’t see results, and give up!! I don’t have any friends or family to motivate me because they’re happy with the way I look. I’m not, and that’s what’s stopping me. I don’t know how to stick to working out when something always seems to stop me.
I’m afraid of losing what my weight has shaped me too be who I am today and that I will also lose myself
I’m afraid of the extra skin that will hang after I lose the weight
I’m afraid of failing
Im afraid of regaining the weight one losing it