You’ll Never Look Like This… And That’s Okay.

bodybuilder_117_by_stonepiler-d52at3sThis weekend, I was totally honored (and flustered) to film a video with seven elite, professional bodybuilders and fitness models. And I’m super excited to share the video with you in a few weeks.

There are guys with great bodies and there are guys with great bodies. And these guys had great bodies.

Even my dad noticed. After checking out my Instagram pictures, he called me and said, “Wow, they have muscles on muscles. Even their ears have muscles!” I think he was a little bit into it.

At any rate, I loved chatting with the guys and asking them about their fitness and nutrition routines.

One of the buffer individuals noted that he goes to the gym three times a day. Once in the morning for cardio and abs. Then around noon to lift. And then again at night for cardio.

I also went out to dinner with two of the guys, and was astounded by their appetite. They both ordered three meals. Three!

Suffice to say, being a fitness model or bodybuilder isn’t just a lifestyle. It’s a full time job.

In fact, it would be nearly impossible to have a 9 – 5 job and still look the way these guys look. And yet, these are the guys that we see in the pages of fitness and health magazines – and, more notably, these are the guys that we measure ourselves against.

And, lest we forget, there’s also a darker side to bodybuilding involving things like steroids, Human Growth Hormone, diuretics and even injectable oils that add volume to muscles.

On one hand, I think it’s great to be inspired by the hard work, dedication and physique of fitness models and athletes.

On the other hand, it’s also important to be realistic – and kind –  with ourselves. Despite what fitness marketers may want us to believe, these bodies weren’t built with just 10 minutes a day and three easy payments of $29.95.

It reminds me of a question that I often get asked, and that I’ve answered on this blog. Guys want the perfect six eight pack. I often respond with another question: How important is it to you? Perhaps you could look like a fitness model or bodybuilder. But do you want it badly enough to dedicate your entire life to it? For most of us (and myself included), the answer is no.

I love working out. I love fitness. I love health and nutrition. All of those things are a big part of my life. But I also love being able to make YouTube videos, spend time with family and friends and honor other aspects of my life. I also like cake. And maybe you do, too.

Let’s all challenge ourselves to be healthy… in every sense of the word. But part of that means having healthy goals, healthy expectations and a healthy relationship with our body. And it means being inspired by bodybuilders and fitness models without being destroyed or discouraged by the images we see of them.

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  1. Davey, you don’t have the slightest idea how much reading this, specially coming from you, meant to me.
    I regularly follow your vids , and I have to confess, I hate you a little bit. … In a figured sense of speaking, of course! I really envy the way you look, but knowing it is the result of really hard work and enduring commitment to your health and well being makes it even more desireable.
    I know I’ll never look like that, specially cuz I don’t have the time to be sttending the gym 24/7, and also don’t have the resourses to be eating like a bull.
    I’m trying really hard to love my body the way it is, of course treating it the right way, eating healthy, and understanding that it is what lies beneath my skin what counts, and not only my looks.
    I confess it’s not an easy thing to accomplish. Seeing this type of body as the epithome of prrfection and what’s desireable makes me feel bad about myself, and hate myself even more for not liking sports and not being constant enough to regularly go to the gym.
    So reading from you that there is simply no magic solution for it but hard work and healthy habits, and that not even these can magically transform my body into these prefabricated mold of lust made me see my modest mortal form eith a little more appreciation, under a warmer light.
    I’ll try to be kinder to myself, to love myself more for what I am, instead of for what I wanna look like.
    Thanks for pushing me the right way.

  2. hola ah todos

  3. Well said Nico you speak for many of us.I’ve been training hard for 6 months at age 56 and have come a long way. For me even if I were to achieve perfection, which I have accepted is impossible for me, in addition comes the realisation that I have aged and passed my golden years of potential body perfection, so self acceptance and acceptance of the limitations of one’s pursuit are important. Thanks Davey for the inspiration and goal-setting.

  4. So I don’t speak for everyone but not everyone wants to look like this. Most guys just want people to react ‘that guy goes to the gym’ look. Maybe it’s just me.

  5. Davey, this post was very revealing, and comforting. However, it left me wondering about what your regimen looks like. Like most here, I consider your body to be near perfection, yet you say you don’t live in the gym like the bodybuilders do. So how long do you spend working out each day?

  6. Tom Hunter says:

    I am often suspicious of guys who look like the blond guy in the picture above. I wonder if it is even possible to get to look like without steroids and/or human growth hormone. Granted, you have to work hard and eat protein and all, but I work very hard and have never looked anything remotely like that.

  7. Dadoftwogirls says:

    Honestly, the guy in picture looks like a cartoon character. His long torso and huge arms make him look distorted and freakish. That’s not how I want to look. And having spent 25 years in the gym, having played football and other athletics, there are less than 1% of men who can even approach that look naturally. The rest are juiced up pure and simple. Saw it in high school, saw it in D1 college, and still see it in the gym today. They may eat right, train hard, live the lifestyle, blah, blah, blah. Pretend it away if you want but the majority is performance enhanced. It’s a fact and die hard gym goers and the rest of us living in the real world know. And it’s what sells magazines, supplements, and unobtainable goals to the other 99%.

    • Dadoftwogirls says:

      P.S. – The guy should consider skipping arm day and consider some back work because his lats are seriously lacking.

  8. I never took any steroids, protein shakes or creatine in my life. Been working out for 10 years 5-6 times a week for an hour. Eat mostly healthy and I look as good as those models ! 🙂

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