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My Parents Buy Unhealthy Food – Help!

Dear Davey,

I live at home and I eat what my parents eat. Though I want to live a healthy lifestyle, my parents fill our kitchen with junk food and candy. Because I’m eating so much crap, I’m even getting a belly. How can I convince my parents to buy healthier food?

From,
Katelyn

junk-food-2Hey Katelyn,

As someone who lived at home for eighteen years, I understand your situation completely. When you’re young, you don’t necessarily have the resources to procure your own meals. But that doesn’t mean that you don’t have influence or a voice.

This much I know: One of the most important roles that any family can fulfill is support.

Sit down with your family and have a judgment-free conversation. Start with those areas of agreement. For one, your family wants you to live a long, healthy and productive life. That’s a great starting place.

Then, connect the dots. By consuming unhealthy foods, you’re increasing your risk for obesity, a shorter lifespan, heart disease and so much more. Through a healthy diet, on the other hand, you’ll be able to lose weight, enjoy more energy and even have higher self esteem. Parents can be stubborn, so explain to them why eating healthy is so important to you.

Next, present a game plan. The reality is, most people don’t understand nutrition. Many people mistakenly believe that “reduced fat” or “gluten free” foods are healthier options. That’s not necessarily the case. In other words, don’t assume that your family is informed and educated about nutrition. Take initiative by giving your family a list of foods that you’d love to have. This list may include things like fresh or frozen vegetables, unsweetened almond milk, fruits, whole wheat bread, brown rice, beans, chicken, fish, dry roasted unsalted nuts, seeds, peanut butter and so on. It’s a common misconception that healthy foods are overly expensive; be mindful of price when selecting your food choices.

Some of the responsibility falls on you. It may mean accompanying your parents to the grocery store and helping them select foods you want to eat. And just because there is unhealthy food in the house, it doesn’t mean that you need to eat it.

The reality is, diet is a personal decision and your family may not be interested in eating healthier. If your family is cooking something unhealthy, opt for a leaner variation or find an alternative. And simply by keeping healthier foods in the house, you’ll have more options when someone opens a bag of potato chips. Maybe you’ll even be able to inspire change in your family through the example you set.

Love,
Davey

P.S. For help losing weight through nutrition, exercise and an improved relationship with your body, download Davey Wavey’s Weight Loss Program.

Losing Weight Without Support.

Davey,

I’m an 18 year old student living at home while attending community college and I was wondering: How can I lose weight without support?

I currently weigh 250 pounds and I’ve finally decided that it’s too much! I know that I need to eat better and exercise, but my parents won’t support me. When I discuss eating healthy foods, they reply that it’s too expensive or that I should just watch what I eat. Their idea of watching what you eat is ordering less at McDonald’s.

When I told them that I’d like to get up early and walk before I start my day, they said they’d consider this to be “sneaking out.” Gyms are too expensive but I need to get my body moving.

What should I do?

From,
Zach

Don't be surprised if the people around you subconsciously hold this perspective.

Hey Zach,

Congratulations on making the decision to take your health into your own hands – and to do something about it! That’s the first and biggest step that you’ll need to take.

Though we look to our friends and family for support, we don’t always find it when it comes to weight loss. It doesn’t take Dr. Freud to figure out the motivation behind this anomaly. If the people around you support your lifestyle changes, it becomes harder for them to deny their own diet and exercise transgressions. In a way, supporting you means acknowledging their own need for improvement. And if they can convince you not to change your ways, it becomes much easier for them to continue their state of denial.

Moreover, jealousy and sabotage can sometimes crop up. “You’ve lost enough,” can become a popular mantra for the less supportive people around you. And don’t be surprised if these individuals try to derail your diet by encouraging unhealthy food choices. Don’t let them become your enablers.

Though we expect the people who love us to support the healthy changes we make, don’t let their lack of support become an excuse for you. Life is too short to live for someone else – and you need to lose the weight for you and your health. Though the changes you make may make your loved ones more aware of the areas in which they can improve their own lives, your positive example – in the long run – is really doing them a favor. Without having to acknowledge it aloud, know that you’re helping the people you love by showing them how to live healthier, more productive and (hopefully) longer lives.

Though you may not find support at home, there are plenty of places to find it online… including right here. There are countless weight loss and fitness communities, message boards and forums that you can browse or join – and endless sources of inspiration and knowledge across the Internet. If you prefer finding support offline, connect with a walking group or workout partner in your city or town.

To help you kick things off, I’m going to e-mail you the complete series of Davey Wavey Workout Programs. Since it’s packed with muscle-building and gut-busting workout videos that you can use at home, it will be a huge help in achieving your weight loss goals. Enjoy – and I look forward to seeing your results!

Love,
Davey

When Friends & Family Stand in the Way of Fitness.

Tell me if this sounds familiar: You decide to make a huge, positive change in your life by becoming healthier through exercise and nutrition. Because your friends and family love and value you, you expect them to be supportive.

But they aren’t. Sometimes they say things about how you’ll fail – or other times they push you to cheat on your diet or skip the gym. What’s that all about? And how can you deal with it? I recorded a talky blog on the subject – check it out below (and let me know what you think in the comments):