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Twink Wanting to be a Stud.

Hey Davey,

I am 6’1 and 140 pounds. I can’t gain weight.

I’ve been working out forever and have even worked with a trainer for a month. While doing that, I got to 145 pounds in about 2 to 3 weeks, but I couldn’t really afford it. I feel like if I were bigger, I would have a better chance at asking out the bigger guys that I like so much. I would even be able to wear shorts for once.

Maybe I just need to appreciate what God gave me. What do you think?


Hey Alfred,

I’m going to give you a healthy dose of tough love.

First of all, you can gain weight. In fact, you did. While working with a trainer, you gained five pounds in just 2 – 3 weeks. At that rate, you could be 190 pounds in six months. You do have the ability to put on extra pounds – and, if you consume more calories than you burn, you certainly will.

Continue to follow the routine prescribed by your trainer. It likely included lots of strength training exercises to build muscles – and a few short sessions of heart-healthy cardio. Moreover, it probably meant eating – a lot.

If you’re a very thin guy, you might not end up looking like the hulk – but you certainly can put some meat on your bones.

As for asking out the bigger guys to which you’re attracted, exercise does build confidence. But reality check; if a guy is only going to give you a chance because of your muscles, then he’s probably not the man for you. If you want a stronger, more muscular build, then do it for you – not for some potential suitor.

I will also say this: What’s very attractive to everyone – including those bigger guys you like – is confidence. Even as you work to transform your body, I’d recommend owning what you’ve got. Put on those short shorts and flaunt what the good Lord gave you. Few things are sexier than a man who is comfortable in his own skin. You’ll drive men wild.