Gym Tip for Gay Men: Don’t Sleep Where You Lift!

They say you shouldn’t shit where you eat, but I say you shouldn’t sleep where you lift.

A few years ago, I joined a gym while spending the summer in New York City. I was going into my senior year of university, and it took me a while to find a gym that didn’t break the bank. When I finally found it, I was delighted to discover that it was full of gays. One guy, in particular, tickled my fancy – a tall glass of dark and handsomeness named Helix. And so when we caught eyes, the rest was history.

I committed the cardinal gay gym sin: I slept where I lifted.

The only thing harder than finding a good man is finding a good gym. The search is long and hard (much like Helix!), and once you finally find a gym that works, it’s important to hold on to it. You wouldn’t want to risk spoiling a good thing, right?

What I didn’t consider is that I’d see that I’d see Helix the next day. And the next day. And just about every day thereafter for the 4 months that I lived in New York City. The encounter that Helix and I shared was great, but it wasn’t something that I wanted to repeat or continue. Luckily, it didn’t get complicated and Helix wasn’t overly persistent, but seeing him everyday did make things a bit awkward.

The bottom line is this: Don’t sleep where you lift. Save that for the internet.

What gym tips do you have for gay men? Share ’em with us in the comments below! I may feature some of my favorites.

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  1. I always love your tips and your article, it helps me a lot. Thanks so much Dave, hope one day you can come over here-my beautyful country in asia-Vietnam.

  2. YOU”RE THE BEST !!! i always love your tips, all tips. thanks !!

  3. Great tip D-man. That would be awkward city, especially if you were the only one around to spot.

    I learned my own gym lesson the other day: don’t take up an offer for a drink at the bar by the bartender. It sounds simple, but I was rather naieve. On a Friday night I was finishing up my workout when an older (probably early 50s), well stacked man came over and started to chat things up. I.E. How fast I was going on the elliptical and what my name was-what my workout routine is. Well, I come to find out he is also the bartender at the small lounge there and he offers me a cold bottle of water. So, since I’m sweating like a fiend, I take him up on it. He proceeds to tell me that I should catch a drink after I work out, and so I nod and walk downstairs to lift. A while later, he follows me down stairs to correct my form on an ab machine and continues to tell me to go to the bar afterwards for a beer. (I hate beer, but say ok…I will…). And when I’m cooling down on the mats, I’m thinking: ok, I really just want to get back home but I know I’ll see him around here again and he will think I stiffed him. So, I take him up on the drink and ask for some red wine. He talks to me for a full hour (occassionsally tending to other clients) and has his full attention on me, which set a warning bell off. Finally, the gym was closing and the lights were dimming and I remember I ran to the gym from my complex down the road/no car.

    Well, he finally shuts down for the night and I peace, texting my dad’s gf, who tells me that he likes young gents.

    Anyways, just a reminder to say NO to the gym drink if you don’t want to be followed. We kind of made light of it afterwards, and my dad said- if that was your friend Erin getting a free drink, wouldn’t you be suspicious of something? And so I said.. Yeah, when you put it that way, I see it.

    Ah- a lesson learned. They probably aren’t just promoting the bar. They want something else.

    (Insert less innocence here & a drop of experience)

  4. I’m more interested in where you found an affordable gym that didn’t break the bank of a student in NYC. I’ve been searching for forever and everything seems out of my price range. A relatively new subscriber here, but loving the tips and videos!

  5. I should only be so lucky as to catch your eye at the gym :).

  6. I love sleeping where I lift, that was actually my first time! Its when the craziest fantasies rise in your mind and you want to act on them! LOL

  7. Gustavo Joris says:

    You’re kinda of a whore, hihi… like myself!