So You Want to Make Your Ex Jealous With a Sexy New Body, Eh?

Dear Davey,

I was en route to work this morning and I bumped into my ex. He cheated on me every week for a year and I was dumped over the phone just before Christmas last year.

Anyway, where you come in… Looking at myself in the mirror, I think I have all the makings to have a fantastic body. I want to gain some muscle (but not too much!) and get as close as I can to a body like yours.

I promised myself I would look amazing if I ever bumped into him again and, well I failed. I am now giving myself untill the summer (not expecting miracles but a definite improvement) to look great.

What is the best way for me to gain muscle mass fast… and which exercises will give the best and quickest results?

I cannot bare to feel like I did this morning again. He looked great, and I looked… well, not.


Dear Man-On-A-Mission,

On one hand, I want to tell you that exercising to make another person jealous or envious isn’t a sustainable motivator. And it’s not coming from a place of true power. I want to tell you to spend your energy looking at today and moving forward, rather than looking back an a relationship that lacked fulfillment. I want to tell you that the time you spend in the gym should be an investment in yourself and an improvement to the quality of your life.

But on the other hand, who am I to talk? When I first started working out, my motivations weren’t the purest. I wanted to look like the Abercrombie & Fitch models that I saw at the mall. I wanted a hard stomach and bulging muscles. It was only months (or perhaps even years) into my exercising that I came to appreciate the much larger, non-superficial benefits of an active lifestyle. Today, it is those benefits (like better health, increased energy, improved sleep, etc.) that are my primary motivators. The muscular physique, is still nice, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Now that I am done preaching, I’ll tackle your question. Building muscle mass quickly involves lifting free weights (dumbbells and barbells) in the low-rep range (usually 4 – 8 repetitions of each exercise). The weights should be heavy, and your muscles should be completely fatigued on your last repetition. Moreover, you’ll need to push yourself to constantly progress to higher amounts of resistance in order to increase the size of your muscles. Keep your sessions short – generally 45 minutes or less of lifting – and never train a muscle that is still sore from your previous workout (it makes sense to do different muscle groups on different days). Combine your strength training with a moderate amount of cardiovascular exercise.

Squat, barbell bicep curls, dead lifts, chest presses or other exercises that make use of free weights are where you’ll want to spend the bulk of your time. I generally do 4 sets of each exercise, but you’ll get most of the benefits from just one or two sets. So do what works best for your schedule and time commitments.

Know that you’ll need to increase the amount of food you consume, and especially increase your protein intake. Whey protein isolate is the best for muscle growth.

Since it’s the start of a new routine for you, you’ll probably want to limit yourself to 3 or 4 workouts per week. Over time, you can increase that – but don’t overdo it or else you may burnout.

For additional reading and details, check out my 8 tips for gaining muscle fast.

I’d say good luck but it’s really more science than luck!


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  1. Do it Man-on-a-mission!

  2. And when you do it man-on-a-mission, kick the bastards ass!!!

  3. It’s been a long time since I was in junior high, but I vividly remember a gym class where the coach said that if you lift heavy weights at low reps, you’ll get much stronger but not much bigger; and if you lift lighter weights at higher reps, you’ll get bigger muscles, but you won’t be that strong. He even told a story about a school wrestling match where a guy on the other team was huge, but he couldn’t wrestle for crap because he wasn’t strong.

    It sounds like this advice is the exact opposite of that, though. Did he have it backward?

  4. What a terrific intelligent response Davey!
    That is the reason I read this blog on a regular basis.
    Intelligence, common sense and high emotional intelligence!
    Rock on dude!

  5. Fernando R. says:

    Aww Davey, you always inspire me with your thoughts and ideas. It’s very nice to have found you, and I bet I am not the only one who can say that…. Best wishes ever.
    Fernando R.

  6. aaaaaaaaaaaaa as intelligent as ever davey.. muy buenos consejos por eso leo este blg.. n.n

  7. Oh dude, why do you even want him back? if he cheated on you every week for a year then god id be outta there as soon as i found out, he sounds like an ass, you shouldn’t be spending your time trying to impress a guy that will probably keep hurting you. You need someone who is going to love you and be 100% loyal to you, this one well… he’s gonna have no luck with nobody if he continues to act the way he does. You can do much much better!!!. As Davey has always said to us “Love yourself, show yourself the respect that you deserve” and this guy isn’t giving you any respect whatsoever or even making you happy.

  8. christopher says:

    cardio and weights just as Davey has said-and consistently-and really truly-forget about your ex-there are more and better fish in the sea.

  9. Cheers Davey!! ๐Ÿ™‚
    And thanks guys for lovley messages of incouragement!!

    Love and peace to you all!!!


  10. There is definately a lot to find out about this issue.
    I really like all of the points you have made.


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