Lose Weight: How to Let Go of Limiting Beliefs?


Today’s guest post is by Davey Wavey’s good friend and spiritual weight release coach, Diane Petrella. Diane is also one of the contributors to The Davey Wavey Weight Loss Program.

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to lose weight when you’ve tried everything to make it happen? You really, really want this, yet success eludes you. If it’s difficult to stay on track, even when you know what to do, dig deeper and discover what’s really holding you back.

Your Conscious vs Subconscious Beliefs

When there is something we consciously desire, but we can’t seem to make it happen, chances are that our subconscious, hidden beliefs are preventing us from having what we want. Let’s use an iceberg analogy. Our conscious mind is the tip of the iceberg. It’s visible and obvious. From this place our desires are pretty clear: “I want to lose weight.”

Your subconscious mind is the mass of ice below, hidden beneath the surface. It is much more powerful than the small tip above. For you to lose weight with ease, your conscious and subconscious minds must agree. If your subconscious mind also says, “I want to lose weight”, you most likely will. But if your subconscious mind holds fears, doubts, and apprehension about losing weight, chances are you will have a very difficult time.

What’s Stopping You?

To move beyond whatever subconscious blocks exist, you need to discover what they are. Be gentle with yourself. It’s not your fault if you’re having a hard time releasing weight if you don’t even know what hidden obstacles are blocking you. But if you truly want to lose weight, it’s your responsibility to find out.

Here are some common underlying beliefs that often sabotage weight loss efforts:

“I’m afraid to lose weight and become thin because men will find me attractive and take advantage of me.”

“I’m afraid to lose weight because if I’m thin and I still don’t meet anyone, then I’ll really feel like a failure.”

“If I’m thin then I won’t be like everyone else in my family and I don’t want to be disloyal and feel separate from them.”

“If I’m thin, my sister may feel sad because she isn’t.”

“If I lose weight, than who am I if I’m not a fat person?”

“If I lose weight, more may be expected of me and I don’t feel confident that I can handle more responsibility.”

“If I lose weight and my family no longer picks on me, then maybe they’ll gang up on my brother and I need to protect him”

“I want to lose weight but I just don’t believe I can be successful at this or anything.”

Acknowledge – Release – Reprogram

If you’ve struggled with weight loss for a long time, simply acknowledging that hidden, self-limiting beliefs exist is an important first step. This is not an excuse for why you’re unable to release weight;  it is a psychologically valid explanation.

The power of subconscious beliefs lessen when you know what they are. While insight alone isn’t necessarily enough to eliminate them, they begin to lose strength once revealed.

When you know what deeper beliefs exist, you can neutralize and release them. You then recreate in your mind new beliefs that support you in reaching your weight loss goals. For example, you can release the belief that you are a “failure” and create a new belief of confidence and strong self-worth. While you may think this is impossible, understand that “thinking it’s impossible” is just another belief that you can change.

Give yourself the gift of support and speak with either a psychotherapist or life coach. Visualization and hypnosis, as well as the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) are powerful tools that help you create new, positive beliefs to support you in reaching your weight loss goals.

This process takes time. It requires your patience. Understand that something deeper than finding the next quick fix  is your only solution to permanent weight loss.

What underlying beliefs are holding you back?

About DianePetrella

Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight release and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane’s Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly, for spiritual insights and tips to release weight with confidence and love. To contact Diane visit www.dianepetrella.com.


  1. Thank you for this! I often worry that when I lose the weight will guys still not pay any attention to me or do I want to lose the weight for the wrong reason so that guys will like me. I watch your videos daily and read your post when I can and LOVE you for how Real and caring you are. Thank you! You are amazing!

  2. christopher says:

    my weight loss is almost complete-about 20/lbs/9kg—–to go.i need to talk to my doctor-one of my meds promotes weight gain.ive not gained back any weight-but believe this med is holding me back.especially around the waist-thats all thats left.gr8 article-but some excuses are a bit lame.I can relate to Jeremy in above post-thats my experience-spot on.

  3. When are you going to take a truly DIFFERENT approach to weight/fat? What about “letting go” of that many times absurd and or impossible dream of losing weight? What about focusing on being healthy and not perpetuating the idea that thin=healthy and fat=unhealthy. You can name all the studies (usually funded by the diet industry) that you want but what about reality? Look around you? If fat people were really dying in droves why are there so many fat people still walking around and going around their daily NORMAL lives?
    Stop this obsession with losing weight already. Statistics are against those that lose weight and you can’t continue to blame “will power” forever. Focus on healthy lifestyle which is all that really matters.

  4. Wonderful post, Diane, thanks!

    Limiting beliefs about our self image and the world are greatly underestimated, when it comes to weight loss.

    The most people only try diets and use their will power to stick to it, which (we all know…) lasts only a few days, or weeks, unfortunately.

    If the limiting beliefs are not addressed and you do not see IMMIDIATE results, 99% fall back to where they was before their started the new diet.

    Because the driving force behind their eating problem is still there! This force are the limiting beliefs, like you described, and conditions (kind of unconscious automatic reactions situation-eating).

    The typical limiting beliefs are most of the time NOT what we would expect them to be. Often they seem really weird if we hear them for the first time, but for the person who has the belief it totally makes sense, here are some examples:

    eating is the best way to get pleasure,
    the way to be accepted by others is to be imperfect and for me that’s being heavy
    the best way to avoid sex is to be heavy,
    – the best way to feel better when I don’t feel good is to eat,
    – the best way to celebrate is to eat,

    Pretty surprising, isn’t it?

    Now the question is of course, how to eliminate the beliefs and conditions (for example the condition „feeling guilty/bored – having to eat“). The EFT method is one of the best. Tapping has helped a lot of people already.

    There are also other ways to do it, e.g. the Lefkoe Belief Process lets you easily eliminate all beliefs AND conditions, related to emotional eating/overeating.

    Here you can find out more about how you can stop emotional eating it: http://www.recreateyourlife.com/1?p=davidfree&w=es-sales

    Thanks and I hope the EFT method will help a lot of people to lose their weight soon!

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