Losing Weight Without Support.

Davey,

I’m an 18 year old student living at home while attending community college and I was wondering: How can I lose weight without support?

I currently weigh 250 pounds and I’ve finally decided that it’s too much! I know that I need to eat better and exercise, but my parents won’t support me. When I discuss eating healthy foods, they reply that it’s too expensive or that I should just watch what I eat. Their idea of watching what you eat is ordering less at McDonald’s.

When I told them that I’d like to get up early and walk before I start my day, they said they’d consider this to be “sneaking out.” Gyms are too expensive but I need to get my body moving.

What should I do?

From,
Zach

Don't be surprised if the people around you subconsciously hold this perspective.

Hey Zach,

Congratulations on making the decision to take your health into your own hands – and to do something about it! That’s the first and biggest step that you’ll need to take.

Though we look to our friends and family for support, we don’t always find it when it comes to weight loss. It doesn’t take Dr. Freud to figure out the motivation behind this anomaly. If the people around you support your lifestyle changes, it becomes harder for them to deny their own diet and exercise transgressions. In a way, supporting you means acknowledging their own need for improvement. And if they can convince you not to change your ways, it becomes much easier for them to continue their state of denial.

Moreover, jealousy and sabotage can sometimes crop up. “You’ve lost enough,” can become a popular mantra for the less supportive people around you. And don’t be surprised if these individuals try to derail your diet by encouraging unhealthy food choices. Don’t let them become your enablers.

Though we expect the people who love us to support the healthy changes we make, don’t let their lack of support become an excuse for you. Life is too short to live for someone else – and you need to lose the weight for you and your health. Though the changes you make may make your loved ones more aware of the areas in which they can improve their own lives, your positive example – in the long run – is really doing them a favor. Without having to acknowledge it aloud, know that you’re helping the people you love by showing them how to live healthier, more productive and (hopefully) longer lives.

Though you may not find support at home, there are plenty of places to find it online… including right here. There are countless weight loss and fitness communities, message boards and forums that you can browse or join – and endless sources of inspiration and knowledge across the Internet. If you prefer finding support offline, connect with a walking group or workout partner in your city or town.

To help you kick things off, I’m going to e-mail you the complete series of Davey Wavey Workout Programs. Since it’s packed with muscle-building and gut-busting workout videos that you can use at home, it will be a huge help in achieving your weight loss goals. Enjoy – and I look forward to seeing your results!

Love,
Davey

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Comments

  1. KOJohnson says:

    Surely the kid has a gym available to him at community college.

  2. this is freaky. i’m 20 and i weigh the same as the guy in this post and i have the same situation.

  3. When someone says “You’ve lost enough” you need to look at what’s healthy for the person you are, not jump to the conclusion that they’re sabotaging you: body dysmorphia is an inability to view your body positively, whatever it’s size, and it’s increasingly common among gay men.

  4. Loki Veritas says:

    OMG how funny I was just talking about this with my friend, cuz i really need to lose weight too and weigh about the same as that guy. Thanks so much for the advice Davey and thank you Zach for asking :). Zach I hope you can update us on your progress, also I heard switching to drinking only green tea and water is a good way to lose weight as you work out ^_^.

  5. Dylan H. says:

    The mere fact that our Davey Wavey was kind enough to offer these words of wisdom and support as well as providing the workout programs he’s worked so hard to concoct is a testament to his integrity and strength of heart. Davey…. you are simply one of the most PHENOMENAL people I have ever had the pleasure of sort-of kind-of knowing via youtube videos XD

  6. Hey Zach, a couple things that helped me when I decided to lose the fat and tone up, make small changes in your diet, small changes are easier to maintain than massive ones, if you drink whole milk for example transition to 1% or skim gradually. make it about losing fat not weight, muscle is heavier than fat and at some point chances are your lean body mass increase will add pounds as you lose fat, but you’ll look better. Be patient, losing weight fast isn’t as important as keeping what you lose off. Good luck!

  7. Perhaps your community college has gym facilities that students can use at no charge.

  8. So, if I claimed to be 18, would you give your workout videos for free Davey? as opposed to the 47-57 dollars you usually charge?

    On a more practical note, if Zach drives or takes public transport to his community college, he can leave a bit early and park / get off far enough away for a 20 minute walk to the college and back at the end of classes.

    and there articles around on what types of fast food are marginally healthy if you know what to order. even at McD.

  9. yu237551 says:

    I found a great resource online with myfitnesspal.com. They have an online community along with a calorie counting tool that have helped me so far. Feel free to look for me on there and we can support each other! That’s only part of the equation, but it’s a start.

    • There’s an app for MyFitnessPal too! It’s been an amazing tool in my weight loss journey.

  10. christopher says:

    Zach-good luck to you-on this fitness blog-you will find much support.when you go to McDonalds-i might point out that coffee-tea-bottled water-and their oatmeal selections-are the most healthy menu items-possibly their salads as well.—-as a note-over 1.5 yrs have passed-i started walking dogs during my lunch hour-ive lost over 43kg/95lbs.if i can do it-i trust you will too.Best of luck-im with you.

  11. i went through the same situation a few years ago. i’m now the healthiest of my family by far and their jealousy is prominent. zack, dont let their lack of motivation get to you, use is as inspiration. you dont have to be rich to eat healthy. surround yourself with positive energies and possibly people like you and start a support group. i completely agree with davey, support always helps, even if you cant find it at home. in 2009-10 i lost 60 pounds and gained muscle and have been able to keep it off with healthier eating habits and exercise, i am willing to help you if you need someone to talk to or ask for advice. i hope you achieve al your fitness goals and dont be discouraged if it takes time!

  12. Hi Zack –

    First: Well done, you, for making the decision. Second: Sorry about the lack of support…if it’s of any consolation, a lot of us (me, included) have to deal with that.

    One question: How far are you from your CC? Maybe you could ride your bike to and from? Perhaps even use the showers at the gym they [should] have on site?

    Good luck, dude…..

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  14. Hey Zack & everyone looking for some fitness support,

    If you want to plug into an online support group that will help you loose weight, get healthy, and keep you accountable and motivated – contact me. I’ll help support you in your goals.

    And GOOD JOB in making the decision to take matters in your own hands. You’re NOT alone on this journey!

  15. I am surprised no one has commented on this weirdness:

    “When I told them that I’d like to get up early and walk before I start my day, they said they’d consider this to be “sneaking out.””

    What?!? Is he a prisoner? Grounded? This makes no sense to me, as certainly am 18-year-old adult is entitled to the freedom to walk! What gives?

  16. Hi Davey:

    I’ve been in Europe for a while and got back last weekend. Just getting used to life in Toronto again and when I checked my e-mails today, there was one from you. It felt like an old friend had written to me and I just wanted to say Hi and hope you are well. I am old enough to be your Grandpa and consider you a close grandson even though we have never met. Hmmm that sounded strange. Just to let you know that I enjoy all you do, wish you continued success and glad you are you.

    Lots of love from Phil. 🙂

  17. Yup, that’ll do it. You have my appreictaion.