Fitness isn't just about what you do - it's how you think. Here's some gym-spiration to supercharge your workout.

How To Eat Junk Food Without Feeling Guilty.

junk-food-dayToday is National Junk Food Day. Hurray! In honor of the holiday, I’m excited to share a simple, two-step strategy for enjoying junk food without the guilt.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Eat junk food.
  2. Don’t feel guilty.

Pretty easy, isn’t it? Well, there’s a catch. The problem is, most of us find it really hard to indulge in those less-than-healthy foods that we sometimes crave. Foods like pizza, macaroni and cheese, doughnuts, french fries, candy and the like.

The first step in reducing guilt is realizing that it doesn’t work in your favor. If you feel guilty about eating a slice of cake, does guilt turn that cake into lettuce? Does it burn calories? Does it motivate or inspire you? The answer is no, no and probably not. On the contrary, feeling guilty is likely to produce more emotional eating and an increasingly strained relationship with food. In other words, guilt doesn’t serve you.

We need to move beyond the label of good foods and bad foods. Some foods are healthier than others, but labeling one food as good and another as bad feeds into this downward cycle of shame and guilt. Moreover, depriving yourself of these so-called bad foods is the perfect way to trigger a binge. In my experience, that which we resist tends to persist. Resist that slice of mom’s apple pie, and if you’re anything like me, you’re probably going to spend the next three days obsessing over it. Just eat the damn slice and get over it.

Of course, the media doesn’t help. How many times do you see foods referred to as “guilt free” in recipes? How often do we project shame on people for looking a certain way or publish magazine articles that berate celebrities for gaining weight and then sell trigger-inducing ice cream ads on the next page? How often do we call skinny people “cute” and “real” for eating pizza and larger people disgusting or lazy for doing the same thing? In other words, it’s easy to see how the world around us can influence our relationship with food and our bodies.

Let’s free ourselves from the guilt. Let’s stop judging foods as bad or good. And let’s stop judging ourselves – or others – for eating those foods. Let’s enjoy the foods that we eat, whatever those foods are, and remind ourselves that it is all about balance. Sure, let’s eat healthier foods most of the time. But let’s also make room for life. And life without pizza, cake, doughnuts or french fries fucking sucks.

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Straight Skinny, But Gay Fat.

straight skinny gay fatHere’s something you’ve probably heard: Someone referred to as “straight skinny but gay fat.”

This statement, of course, refers to the differing standards in appearance for straight and gay men. In other words, a few extra pounds on a straight guy isn’t a big deal. But in the gay world, it’s a different story altogether.

Now here’s something you probably haven’t heard: Among men who have eating disorders, 42% identify as gay.

When we hear the term “gay fat” in reference to the double standard in body image, the tendency is to laugh. It’s often used as a punch line. But I’m not laughing. Maybe the idea of “gay fat” wouldn’t bother me so much if it wasn’t killing people.

Here’s something else you probably haven’t heard: Without treatment, up to 20% of people with serious eating disorders die. With treatment, that number is still 2% – 3%. Eating disorders are deadly.

Eating disorders are a real problem in our community, and we’re dismissing it as a joke.

As I’ve mentioned, I was anorexic in middle school. Growing up overweight, I tried to take control of my situation by starving myself. It was easy to outsmart the doctors when they asked about my weight loss, and even easier to deceive my own family. In fact, to this day, my mother refuses to acknowledge my eating disorder.

The reality is, it’s not easy to talk about eating disorders. And that’s especially true for men. In a world that sees eating disorders as a problem for teenage girls trying to fit into prom dresses, it’s all of our jobs to decrease the stigma and be constructive with our words and actions.

When someone is referred to as straight skinny but gay fat, I’m not laughing. Because what I really hear in that statement is the struggle that all gay men have of looking in the mirror and seeing someone they love. And to me, that’s not a joke. And if it is, it’s a punchline that some of us are paying for with our lives.


What Is Broscience?

thesituationWhat is broscience?

According to Urban Dictionary:

Broscience is the predominant brand of reasoning in bodybuilding circles where the anecdotal reports of jacked dudes are considered more credible than scientific research.

Need an example?

Bro, you gotta slam 40-60 grams of waxy maize plus 20 grams of BCAA within 7 seconds of finishing your last set of squat rack curls. Otherwise, you’ll go straight to catabolic.

Broscientists are everywhere, but are most likely in the free weight area of your gym, online bodybuilding forums or any local GNC. They’re smooth, fast talking and almost always have no idea what the fuck they’re talking about.

Broscience will teach you:

  1. Sleep less to increase testosterone. You’ll wake up angry and that will boost your testosterone.
  2. Flexibility is the ability to flex.
  3. Hammer curls get the girls. Pecs for sex. Trapezius for the sleaziest. And squats for thots.
  4. Peanut butter sticks to you and that’s how you put on weight.
  5. During your anabolic window, it’s important to take selfies or you’ll lose your gains.

As it turns out, exercise has been studied fairly extensively by the scientific community. If you have a question, there’s likely a corresponding, science-based study with an actual answer. And despite the popular narrative that says otherwise, there’s scientific agreement on many aspects of fitness.

So take the plunge. Say no to bro and put your reliance on science.

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An Open Letter to Hot Straight Men at the Gym.

hot-gym-guy-liveliketomDear Straight Men,

I’m a gay guy. And because it’s basically a statistical certainty, there are probably other gay men like myself at your gym. We use the same weights, the same treadmills and, yes, even the same showers.

The truth is, I’m really not attracted to most of you. Just because I like men doesn’t mean that I like all men, and most straight guys are actually quite repulsive. No offense.

But every now and then, on a very rare occasion, a cute straight guy might catch my attention. I’m pretty good at not staring, but I might give him a quick glance or a one over. If I see him in the locker room, I just might muster up the courage to check him out shirtless.

Of course, most straight guys don’t care if a gay man checks them out at the gym. In fact, many might find it flattering. But there is a small but vocal minority of straight men that are deeply offended by a gay dude checking them out. These straight guys find it disgusting or upsetting or in poor taste.

To these deeply offended straight men, I would like to offer you a deal. This deal is being offered on behalf of myself and all gay men everywhere. We will stop checking you out. No glances. No looks. Nothing. Here’s the catch: That is, if you agree to stop checking out women. That’s right. We will stop if you agree to stop doing the very same thing to the women around you.

Because some women find your staring to be disgusting, upsetting and in poor taste.

Whether she’s doing a squat, running on the treadmill or stretching her legs, we won’t look at you if, and only if, you don’t look at her.

Fair is fair.

Davey Wavey & Gay Men

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7 Reasons To NOT Skip The Gym Today.

hot personal trainerThinking about skipping the gym today? Don’t do it. Sure, we’re all tempted with a long list of excuses ranging from bad weather to new episodes of Orange Is The New Black. Appealing as they are, excuses are full of empty promises – and serve only to prevent you from reaching your health and fitness goals.

To that end, here are 7 reasons to get your workout on!

  1. You will feel even better. It’s no secret that working out boosts your mood and makes you feel better about yourself. It’s like an instant happiness kick. As they saying goes, “I regret that workout. Said no one, ever.”
  2. Your body really, really wants it. With more than 600 muscles and 360 joints, your body was built to move. You were born with two feet and two arms, not a chair attached to your ass. Give your body what it wants.
  3. You deserve it. Because working out provides so many awesome benefits, it allows you to be the best version of yourself. You deserve a healthy, happy and productive life – and going to the gym is a means to that end.
  4. It’s good for the people around you. When you are at your best, you have more to give – and you are able to make a bigger impact on the people around you. Being your best self elevates the rest of the world. And the world really needs that.
  5. It makes you stronger. Be Superman or Superwoman, or at least the person who people ask to open that bottle of ketchup. Working out builds stronger bodies, and stronger bodies allow us to push our boundaries and do things we never thought possible.
  6. You’re responsible for you. No one forces us to eat unhealthy foods or sit at home on our butts. Exercising is about taking responsibility for your life and holding yourself accountable for your health. Working out is one of the variables that’s within our control. This is your body and you decide what to do with it.
  7. That cute trainer might be working. Actually, I saw him this morning – so you better hurry up and get yourself to the gym before he goes home. He was looking really cute, too. With that tight tank top on and fitted mesh shorts. Go see for yourself!

What’s your reason for working out today? Share it in the comments below!

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