Inspiration

Fitness isn't just about what you do - it's how you think. Here's some gym-spiration to supercharge your workout.

Mirrors Lie.

Mirrors-iphones-selfie-grindr-scruff-men-guys-gay-shirtless-naked-abs-cocks-ass-cum-bulge-hot-hung-hairy-muscle-beards-jocks-underwear-smile-lockerroom-caps-38Mirrors lie.

Or, more accurately our brains do. More specifically, our brains lie when observing our reflection. It’s pretty much impossible for us to see ourselves as we really are.

At the most basic level, our mind plays tricks on us when viewing our reflection. Our brains are literally trained to focus on the things we don’t like. Moreover, our minds exaggerate the things we don’t like so that they appear larger. Anyone who has ever had a pimple knows this to be true.

But let’s take a step back.

Even beyond our tricky brains, everything we see is an illusion. Look at your arm. It looks like a solid mass of flesh and bones. But it’s not; it’s trillions of atoms whirling around in giant clouds of information and energy. When you look in the mirror, that’s not something you’ll see

But let’s take yet another step back.

There’s a great and fitting quote by Thich Nhat Hanh about seeing clouds in a piece of paper:

If you are a poet, you will see clearly that there is a cloud floating in this sheet of paper. Without a cloud, there will be no rain; without rain, the trees cannot grow: and without trees, we cannot make paper. The cloud is essential for the paper to exist. If the cloud is not here, the sheet of paper cannot be here either. So we can say that the cloud and the paper inter-are.

Though it sounds like a line in some cheesy song, almost every element on earth was made in the heart of stars. The nuclear fusion that causes our sun to glow and the stars to shine also creates the elements from which the world around us – and even our own bodies – are built.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, you might see wrinkles or fat or things that you don’t like. But if you could really see yourself at a deeper level, you wouldn’t just see the clouds or the stars. You’d see the entire universe reflecting back at you in all its grandeur.

The mirror lies.

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8 Reasons NOT To Be Scared Of The Gym.

Hey Davey,

I’m absolutely petrified to go to the gym. I want to start losing weight now. I’m scared of getting judged and being¬† looked at. I have no friends (yes seriously) so I have no one to go with.

From,
Aimee

Not how the gym actually is...

Not how the gym actually is…

Hey Aimee,

From fear of judgment to locker room anxiety, I’ve answered many questions from people just like yourself that are scared of the gym. I call it gymtimidation.

Though we’ve all experienced gymtimidation at one time or another, it becomes an issue when this fear is used as an excuse to justify inaction. If you want to lose weight but let your fear prevent you from working toward that goal, it’s time for a reality check. While I’m not a big fan of fear, it seems to me that the real fear isn’t what happens to you if you go to a gym. The real fear is what happens to you if you don’t. Not exercising is a dangerous game to play.

Having said all of that, I’d like to share 7 reasons NOT to be scared of the gym. It’s my hope that these reasons will help re-frame the way you think of the gym.

  1. You don’t need a fit body to join a gym. Gym members come in all shapes and sizes. Some are athletes who have been training for years, but most are everyday people making progress toward their fitness goals. You’ll see people at various stages on their fitness journeys.
  2. You can avoid the locker room. Or you can change with a towel around you. Or you can change in a shower stall. Eventually, you may ready to step outside your comfort zone.
  3. You don’t need fancy gym clothes. Don’t let a lack of gym clothes be your reason for avoiding the gym. Any old t-shirt and sweat pants or shorts can do. You don’t need to spend a fortune on a whole new wardrobe to get started at the gym.
  4. Trainers will show you how to use equipment. Not knowing how to use the machines can be a real issue. More than just looking silly, improper use of the equipment can be dangerous. That’s why all gyms have staff and trainers that can show you how to use the equipment. It’s a great way to get acclimated to the gym.
  5. People are focused on themselves. In talking to people with gymtimidation, the number one fear is that others will judge them for being out of shape, overweight or weak. As I’ve said a million times, this simply isn’t the case. People at the gym are busy. They have their own schedules and commitments and are caught up in their own lives. The reality is, most people aren’t thinking about you at all. They’re thinking about themselves.
  6. You will get stronger. No one is strong on their first day of exercise. You get stronger and stronger over time, and people at the gym are at all stages of development. Even the buff guy curling huge weights started somewhere. The only way to get stronger is to start.
  7. No one is cute while exercising. Don’t be afraid of getting sweaty and gross. It’s the gym. Not a fashion show. Whenever I work out, I’m short of breath, sweaty and my hair flies everywhere; if you’re a gross mess when exercising, you’ll be in good company.
  8. You will gain confidence. Exercise is an effective way to build confidence. Not only will you transform the way your body looks, but you’ll also gain a sense of accomplishment as you shed excess weight and improve the quality of your life.

To make things easier, just break it all into small chunks. First, research the gyms in your area. Second, go in to a few of them to ask for member information. Third, join one. Fourth, schedule an information session to learn the equipment. Five, have a workout or exercise with a personal trainer. And so on.

You can do this.

Love,
Davey

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10 Ways I’m Thankful For My Body.

IMG_3475It’s Thanksgiving… so let’s get into the spirit of gratitude.

When we focus on dieting and counting calories, it’s easy to create an environment of scarcity and lack. With such a perspective, we get into a cycle of negativity; as a result, our worldview and happiness can contract. When we focus on abundance, on the other hand, the good things in our lives thrive – and our happiness expands.

By practicing gratitude, we can break – and even reverse – this downward cycle of negativity and better align ourselves with both abundance and happiness.

To that end, here are 10 ways that I’m thankful for my body.

  1. I’m thankful for my legs. They’ve carried me through all my travels, and enabled me to meet so many wonderful people and visit so many awesome places.
  2. I’m thankful for my arms. They’ve allowed me to hold many of you tight – including a 14 year old girl who came out to me as gay during a recent meet-up in New Jersey. I was the second person she came out to, and through streams of tears, told me that her family would never accept her. I held her tiny, shaking body so tight – and did my best to comfort her and help her find the strength within.
  3. I’m thankful for my eyes. They’ve allowed me to take in so much beauty. Though it’s easy to grow accustomed to our surroundings, there’s unfathomable beauty all around us. Always. We just need to stop, get off Instagram or Facebook, put down our phones and simply be.
  4. I’m thankful for my strong hands. I love the power of touch, and I love feeling my boyfriend’s body in my hands. I love exploring and getting lost in his body; my fingers are like little adventurers discovering a new land.
  5. I’m thankful for my lungs. Whenever I get lost in the chaos of life or my own silly self-importance, I shift focus to my breath. Inhale. Exhale. My lungs are a wise teacher, enabling me to be present and aware.
  6. I’m thankful for my voice. It allows me to speak my truth and hopefully – even in some small way – help inspire others to find theirs.
  7. I’m thankful for my lips. They allow me to kiss. And, just as important, they receive kisses. I love and appreciate the connection that my lips help to facilitate.
  8. I’m thankful for my ears. They allow me to hear the words of my many teachers and the people who inspire me.
  9. I’m thankful for my stomach. I love to eat, and my stomach receives all the delicious foods that I consume. I enjoy experiencing the abundance of delicious flavors and fueling my body with the nutrients it needs.
  10. I’m thankful for my genitals. Yes, I definitely am. They have brought me so much pleasure and so much joy, and allow me to connect with other people at the level of their soul.

Even if you’re not at your goal weight or build, perhaps some of these reasons will also resonate with you. Even as you express gratitude, you can feel your entire mood – and perhaps even your spirit – shift to a higher level.

In the comments below, please share the ways in which you are thankful for your body.

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4 Exercise Phrases to Replace NOW!

Our words have a lot of power.

They might not change reality – but they can change your perception of reality. And that’s a pretty big deal. As such, it’s important to choose words wisely.

14410557274_d803a6b38c_zChoosing words wisely is especially important when it comes to health and fitness. Through the words we express, we can dramatically shift our experience of exercise – and, ultimately, our results. To that end, I’ve picked a few key fitness phrases to replace in your vocabulary.

  1. “I hate this exercise.” When we say that we hate an exercise, what we usually mean is that it’s difficult. And if an exercise is difficult, that’s a good indication that we need to do more of it. Let’s be clear: You’re at the gym to exercise and get stronger. To get stronger, we need to challenge ourselves – and it’s these difficult exercises that help ensure results. Rather than hating difficult exercises, embrace them! Don’t hate the exercise, love it!
  2. “I want to be skinny.” The dictionary defines skinny as “lacking sufficient flesh; very thin; emaciated.” Despite the images we see and the messages we hear, skinny isn’t a wise fitness goal. Instead of aspiring to be scrawny or gaunt, let’s work towards healthy, strong, athletic or fit. There are so many words more deserving of our attention.
  3. “I need to go to the gym.” When you say it like that, going to the gym sounds like a chore. And if it sounds like a chore, it will feel like a chore. Going to the gym isn’t something to dread. On the contrary, going to the gym is a tremendous gift to your body – and it’s a step in the direction of your goals. You don’t need to go to the gym. You want to go to the gym and to experience its benefits.
  4. “I’ll never look like that.” Why in the world would you root against your goals and your body? By feeding yourself negative sentiments, you’re fighting against the reality you want to create. Instead of building walls up, knock them down. Be your biggest cheerleader. Rather than focusing on the ‘nevers’, bring your attention to the changes that you can and will make – and let each day be a step in the direction of your goals.

At the end of the day, what you tell yourself and the people around you becomes your truth. So let’s use language that keeps us in alignment with the truth we want and the goals we wish to achieve. Bring awareness to what you listen to, what you tell yourself and what you tell others.

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You’re Worried About Ebola & ISIS – But Still Not Motivated To Workout?

o-EBOLA-facebookThere are a lot of pressing issues in today’s world – and it’s easy to get caught up in the media hype. If you turn on the television, it seems like the end of the world is near. Between the latest reports from the Middle East or the tragic Ebola news from West Africa, it’s unsurprising that many people are scared. Some, even panicking.

And let’s be clear: Turmoil with ISIS in the middle east and the spread of Ebola is horrific, awful and very real. And both as a country and as individuals, we should do all that we can to ensure that all people are allowed to thrive with healthy, happy and productive lives.

But let’s also be clear: According to this article, you should fear your furniture a lot more. Every year, furniture accidents kill about the same number of Americans as terrorism (about 30 fatalities) and injured many, many more (about 40,000 emergency room injuries).

There’s something even more dangerous. Each and every day, 2,200 Americans are killed by the same culprit. That’s 800,000 Americans per year. In perspective, 4,000 people have died worldwide of Ebola. That isn’t to minimize their deaths, but rather to draw attention to the the scope of this even more rampant pandemic. This killer is heart disease. And you’re at far more risk of dying from a stroke or heart attack than ISIS, Ebola or even cancer – combined.

Americans are rushing to the stores to buy gloves and face masks – and orders for full body hazmat suits are spiking online. You can even buy one with Amazon Prime! And yet… and yet, 80% of Americans still don’t get the recommended amount of exercise each week. Exercise that helps dramatically reduce the risk of heart disease.

Let’s get something straight: We’re worrying about the wrong things. If you remove media hype and add logic, we’d be lining up outside the local gym or neighborhood park to get our bodies moving. You might die in a terrorist attack or from Ebola. But with 1 in 3 American deaths attributed to heart disease, the real killer is hiding in plain sight.