Ask Davey

Every week, Davey Wavey answers fan questions about fitness, nutrition or general health. If you have a question, send it to Davey at davey@daveywaveyfitness.com

The Truth About Gay Men In The Locker Room.

Dear Davey,

I’m an openly gay college athlete and many of the other players have privately expressed their concerns about changing and showering in the locker room with me. I’m not really sure what to do and wanted your advice.

From,
Jon

lockerroomHey Jon,

My advice is to link them to this article. They need an education and this class is in session.

First and foremost, your straight teammates need to understand that they’ve been sharing locker rooms with gay men their entire lives. They just didn’t know it. There is nothing new or different about showering with you; the only difference is that you’ve had the courage to come out to them.

Second, their straight teammates are probably more keen to check out their bodies than other gay men. The truth is, the locker room can be a pretty intimidating place for gay guys, and most of us go out of our way to avoid any sideways glances or awkwardness. Straight guys, on the other hand, seem perfectly comfortable staring at other guys and even commenting on their packages. For most gay men, this is terrifying.

Third, it’s worth reminding your straight teammates that just because they are men and just because we are gay doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re even interested in looking. In other words, they need to stop flattering themselves.

But for the sake of argument, let’s pretend that your straight teammates are drop-dead gorgeous Adonises. And let’s pretend that you did actually take a lustful look at their nakedness. Is that such a terrible thing? Does you looking at them somehow rob them of their masculinity? Are they somehow lessened or diminished by your gaze? Absolutely not.

(In fact, you’re probably looking at them the same way that they look at women ALL THE TIME. But I digress.)

Finally, let’s not forget that straight guys are the ones with the power. It’s gay men who experience discrimination, who get teased and bullied for their sexual orientation and who are denied equality under the law. Straight guys aren’t victims in the locker room, or in life in general – and it’s not a cute look for them to pretend that they are.

In conclusion, my advice for your concerned straight teammates can be summed up in three simple words: Get over it.

Love,
Davey

Brown Rice Vs. Quinoa

Hey Davey,

What are your thoughts on quinoa, as opposed to brown rice? I’m always watching my carb intake… I have dresses to fit into!

Thanks,
Randy

brown-rice-628x363Hey Randy,

They say if you give a man a fish, he eats for a day. But if you teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime. In the spirit of teaching you to fish, take advantage of a simple tool offered by Google. Go to the Google homepage and type in “quinoa vs brown rice” and click search.

At the top of the search results, you’ll notice a nutritional comparison of the two foods. From the drop down menus under each food, ensure that you’ve selected similar comparison metrics. For quinoa and brown rice, I selected a 100 gram comparison of cooked quinoa to cooked brown rice.

As you can see, the two food products have similar nutrition information with a few noticeable differences:

  • Quinoa has significantly higher levels of dietary fiber (2.8 grams vs 1.8 grams)
  • Quinoa has higher levels of potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron, phosphorus, zinc and folate
  • Brown rice has higher levels of manganese, selenium and niacin
  • Quinoa has more protein (4.4 grams vs 2.3 grams)
  • Brown rice has slightly fewer calories (112 calories vs 120 calories)
  • Quinoa has slightly fewer carbohydrates (21 grams vs 24 grams)

It’s worth noting that both brown rice and quinoa are complex carbohydrates, which are broken down slowly by the body and don’t result in the same blood sugar spikes as simple carbohydrate foods like candy, pastries and refined grains. Despite the bad reputation, complex carbohydrates are an important part of a balanced diet. And with plenty of fiber and protein, both brown rice and quinoa will help you feel full longer.

Though quinoa might have a slight edge over brown rice, both foods are healthy choices that totally deserve to be included in your diet. Rather than splitting hairs between these two healthy foods, focus your energy on the more important nutritional issues… like including more vegetables in your diet or reducing alcohol or sugar intake!

That’s my two cents.

Love,
Davey

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Would You Join A Gay Gym?

Dear Davey,

I’m an openly gay man and I just moved to Los Angeles. I’m trying to decide which gym is best for me. One gym near me is pretty straight but the other is extremely gay. What are your thoughts on joining a gay gym? I need some guidance!

From,
Ben

Man-in-sauna-via-ShutterstockHey Ben,

With a mixture of men, mirrors, saunas and the occasional jockstrap, I can’t help but think that all gyms are at least a little gay. Having said that, some gyms are certainly gayer than others – and there are no shortage of predominantly gay gyms in Los Angeles. I know this because I go to one of them.

There’s no simple answer to your question. In fact, it really depends what you’re looking for in your gym experience.

Pros / Cons of a Straight Gym

  • Pro: Distraction-free workout lets you focus more on exercise
  • Pro: More able to keep to yourself
  • Con: Some gays might feel less safe working out in a predominately straight environment – including signs of affection with a significant other

Pros / Cons of a Gay Gym

  • Pro: More social environment and may feel a sense of community
  • Pro/Con: This can be a good thing or a bad thing, but gay gyms tend to be very cruisey
  • Con: Might end up seeing your ex-boyfriend
  • Con: Might make other gym-goers more self-conscious about body, clothing, etc.

For me, the gayness of a gym isn’t a determining factor. The availability of equipment and vicinity to my house are my top priorities.

Regardless of which gym you choose, I do have one piece of advice. As I’ve said before, it’s much easier to find a good hookup than a good gym; don’t screw where you lift. You’ll see him again and again and again and forever be haunted by the ghosts of hookups past.

But I’d love to hear what you guys think. Would you join a gay gym? Let me know in the comments below.

Love,
Davey

P.S. If you are a female, I strongly recommend gay gyms. There are a number of women who attend my very gay gym and absolutely love it; they can wear whatever they want, no one hits on them and they don’t mind getting down, dirty and sweaty.

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Does The Ketogenic/Low Carb Diet Work?

Hey Davey,

My boyfriend started on the ketogenic diet and is getting some great results. I wanted to know your thoughts on the effectiveness of this regime.

From,
Jordan

cyclical-ketogenic-dietHey Jordan,

The ketogenic diet was initially developed as a way to treat epilepsy. More recently, it’s been used as a strategy for people looking to lose weight and improve their health.

First things first, what is a ketogenic diet?

A ketogenic diet results in a state of ketosis. Instead of relying on glucose for fuel, the body produces ketones in the liver. Though there are many forms of ketogenic diets, they typically involve the restriction of carbohydrates to levels under 50 grams per day. These diets are high in fat and usually contain moderate levels of protein.

Because of carbohydrate restriction, ketogenic diets are often compared to Atkins diets. However, the two are quite different. Ketogenic diets are lower in protein and often require strict meals plans and doctor supervision.

Can ketogenic diets be effective for individuals looking to lose weight? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that all of us are different people with different lifestyles and different preferences – and that there is no one-size-fits-all approach.

Personally, eating a balanced diet of complex carbohydrates (brown rice, whole wheat), lean proteins (fish, chicken, turkey), beans, nuts, lots of vegetables, fruits and essential fats has proven both effective and sustainable. And any diet that doesn’t include whole wheat pizza isn’t a diet for me. Sorry.

And as noted by the Mayo Clinic, low carbohydrate diets and ketosis are associated with health risks including headache, weakness, fatigue and/or bowel issues. For me, the fatigue is most evident in decreased workout intensity – which negatively impacts my gym results.

Having said that, there are plenty of ketogenic diet disciples that swear by the regime. At the end of the day, you need to find what works best for you!

Love,
Davey

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Is Crossfit Better Than The Gym?

Dear Davey,

I have a few friends that are obsessed with CrossFit and swear that it’s a million times better than the gym. I know that you go to CrossFit and I was wondering what you think? Should I ditch my gym membership and try CrossFit?

From,
Stevie

7022884_nHey Stevie,

Comparing CrossFit and the gym is a bit like comparing apples and oranges. Both provide great benefits, but it really depends on the person.

There are a few things that I love about CrossFit. For one, you get a sense of community and support. The workouts are completed in a group setting and they are highly structured. The entire workout is planned out – and instructors and classmates will push you to get through. The classes can also be competitive; for some people, this can be the motivational kick-in-the-butt that they need. And there’s no question that the workouts are awesome and effective.

On the flip side, CrossFit tends to be more risky. When you push yourself hard – especially with exercises that are unfamiliar – the risk for injury increases. That’s why CrossFit studios offer classes for beginners so that they can learn proper form and technique. If you do opt for CrossFit, it’s important to complete these introductory classes. Moreover, CrossFit is expensive; an unlimited CrossFit pass to my gym is $200/month. Having said that, I like to think of it as an investment in myself rather than an expense.

As someone who tends to be more introverted, the team spirit of CrossFit isn’t something that I particularly enjoy. In fact, I find it to be a bit cult-like at times. I much prefer the solitude and independence of a solo gym workout. Like CrossFit, my solo workouts are structured and effective (though some exercisers may lack the knowledge to put together a goal-oriented workout). And because I’m only competing with myself, I know that I’m less likely to push myself too far – and get injured.

For me, the answer isn’t either or… but both. Six mornings per week, I workout independently at my gym. And then two afternoons per week, I take a CrossFit class. It’s a big commitment, but it’s also something that I love doing. But at the end of the day, the debate over CrossFit versus the gym is really a personal decision.

In the comments below, I’d love to hear what you guys think. Have you tried CrossFit? Do you prefer the gym? Let us know!

Love,
Davey

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